Yesterday, October 23rd, 2018, was my sixth anniversary living away from home.
As some of you may know, I’m from Cancún, México but I’ve lived in Barcelona for the past 6 years. It definitely has been a ride and I love Barcelona so much. It has been a part of me since I can remember, long before I even visit it for the first time.
That’s because my family is some version of the United Nations. I say that because we have a big mix of cultures. From my dad’s side, basically, everyone is Spanish. He is actually the first generation to be born in México. From my mom’s side is when all the fun starts because there are Spanish, English, American, Portuguese, etc.
Even though I’m a complicated mix worth putting in a pancake recipe. I only feel related to México because I lived there most of my life, and Spain because even though I was living in México, Spanish culture was extremely present in my house and my education.
Anyway, leaving the heritage behind because let’s be real; no one cares… I wanted to talk about my experiences about living away from home. Everything life has taught me and how I grew from a teenage girl to an independent woman. In case you are in a similar situation. Or maybe you are about to leave home for the first time. Anyone who can relate basically.
YOU GROW UP FASTER
Living away from home, being alone, in a new place. You know basically no one. The culture is different, no matter how similar it may be to yours. You’re bound to have a cultural shock.
Life forces you to go outside your comfort zone and because you are alone, you have to take care of everything yourself. You have to deal with everything, and overcome any hard things that may come your way. And that toughens you up big time. And in no time, when you can get a bit of a perspective. You’ll notice you’ve grown up a bit. And that’s a good thing.
YOU BECOME INDEPENDENT
Like I said before, you have to do everything. That involves cooking, cleaning. Going to the grocery store and pack up your weekly supplies. You have to deal with a lot of paperwork regarding university, or maybe residency stuff. Something about your new place. Bills. Whatever it may be, I can assure you’ll have to deal with some paperwork.
Dealing with all of this day-to-day adult stuff on your own quickly transforms you into an independent person. That only if your personality it’s up to it. Because I know a lot of people who can get really overwhelmed over the simplest things and they depend on other people to take care of everything.
But if you start growing up and liking the taste of adulthood and somewhat freedom. You’ll step up to it and take care of everything on your own. Good or bad. And that’s being independent. And that is actually one of the first things I started to love about living away from home.
YOU CHANGE PRIORITIES
As more responsibilities come your way, of course, the outcome is going to be a more responsible you. And the more responsible you are, the more you give a second thought about everything. Your actions, decisions, money, people, etc.
So you are going to start changing your priorities as you grow up. You’ll change from someone who overspend and ends up with no money at the end of the month. To hopefully someone who starts a savings account for the future. This is only an example of course. Everyone is different and is in a different situation. But you get the point.
YOU LEARN TO BE ALONE
Not lonely, but alone.
In my personal experience, I can say at first I hated it because I was very used to be surrounded by people. But now there’s nothing better in the world than me time.
I love being on my own. Not everybody does. But with time, you’ll start appreciating it and longing for it more and more.
I think this is another way to grow up and be more independent.
COMING BACK HOME IS HARD
Living away from home doesn’t mean you’ll never come back. You always do. But it has a sad side to it, and its that you’ll have to leave again.
Every goodbye is harder each time. It doesn’t get any easier. Quite the contrary.
Also, you’ll see a lot of changes when you come back. People change, friends change, it’s not the same. But that’s ok. Everyone is growing and following their own path. It would be very sad actually if everything would stay the same forever. So learn to deal with that. And acknowledge the fact, that you’ve changed too.
QUARTER LIFE CRISIS
This is my current state. I’m debating career decisions and personal decisions. Thinking about how marriage and kids in the future will play together with wanting to grow my professional career, etc.
Sometimes I think I want to grow up faster. Then I realize how dumb that thought is, and that everything comes at its own time.
All of this is normal. Being 25 is though. It’s one of the famous “life crisis” for a reason, lol.
“I guess having this 1000-word conversation with myself is just a reminder not to will myself to grow up faster, but to enjoy myself and my life right where we are now. It is, after all, the older and wiser thing to do.” Chelsea Lankford of Truelane in “Growing up too fast…again”